Gift budget per child: fair distribution in the family
Quick answer
Not every child needs the same amount — but the same attention.
Parents struggle with is this fair? at different ages. A budget per child, matched to age and need, brings calm — and stops you spending more on the youngest because they beg hardest.
Fair is not always the same amount
A baby needs different things than a teenager. Agree attention is equal, not necessarily the receipt.
Explain why one child gets a bigger item and another several small ones.
Make the agreement with both parents
Different households give differently. Note a range per child and share it before Sinterklaas or the birthday, so nobody later says that is unfair.
Use wish lists as a benchmark
Let each child make a list in different price ranges. Then you choose within budget what really makes them happy, instead of buying the most expensive toy out of guilt.
Count group and family gifts too
Uncles, grandparents, and school name draws count too. Subtract those from the child budget or agree they are separate — but say it out loud.
Conclusion: how to put it into practice
A thoughtful amount per child plus equal attention prevents arguments. Align with the other parent and use wish lists as a guide.